Independent - Vunerable


Do you like to be independent, self sufficient an individual,  free spirited or similar ? Most of the time I do and value it within myself.  This trait, while at times a quiet wonderful and free feeling, can also become a downfall to oneself. I  enjoy independence and a free spirited nature , however have of recent times started to think it could be in the way of truly sharing a piece of myself. The thought process for me valuing independence is that I can take full responsibility for who I am and how I guide my life, which I always want to be able to do.  However I have realised lately it is harbouring my growth as I am fearing vulnerability. 

To be vulnerable means for myself that I need to let my guard down, which then allows a whole other fear to encroach as vulnerability exposes one to the possibility of attack or harm physically or emotionally. For the purpose of this post, its the emotional harm that may come from been vulnerable that has given way to fear. 

Nevertheless as I wade though the waves, and the highs and lows of life I have given it thought that it is okay at times to be vulnerable. Isn't it fair to yourself, and to others that you present who you as much as you can, it is the only way, another can get to know "you" better.  Every opinion of you apart from your own is outside of your control, nonetheless the feeling of someone knowing your strengths and weakness and valuing who you truly are, is a part of the human connection that we go on our search for through life. Life makes you question its meaning at times and part of that meaning comes from true connections and relationships. These are very valuable and should never be assumed, they take, work, time, giving and sharing...well worth it though. What sometimes is thought of as a weakness is indeed a strength. Nothing can be fixed if its not seen broken. 

I had always thought to be independent was such a strength (and it the right time it is)…however been vulnerable is just as powerful'

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